My two sons

airport bros

Not sure where one ends and the other begins and grateful for that

Six months after leaving home my sons are closer than ever. At ages 7 and 9 they have no sense of personal space or boundaries with each other. They are each others limbs and whether tumbling in the grass or playing in the pool or now, hovered over my iphone, a tangle of arms and legs in an airport lounge, they are blissfully unaware that they are anything less than the combination of each other.

cooking Hayman Island

Taste testing their chocolate creations in Australia on Hayman Island

Every day we are together on this trip  the truth of how intimately connected  their lives on this planet will always be becomes clear.  They are the most beautiful mix of their parents’ love and eyelashes and finger nails and perspectives.  They have inside jokes that no one will ever understand more than each other. For now they hold conversations between themselves that cause us adults to take pause and shake our head. In a few years those conversations will become whispers behind closed doors, locking us out and making their bond even closer. They will be each others best historian and, I hope, each others most reliable ally.

vietnam beach boys

Vietnam beach boys

They finish each others sentences and know exactly which buttons to push to get the other happy, upset or giggling.

I know there will come a day when they push each other a little further away.  I recognize they will need to assert their individuality and be their own people. But that day is not today.

exploring angkor wat

exploring angkor wat

Nope, today they are each others BFF and momentary nemesis and BFF again.  And they are ours.  Unbelievably, undeniably ours. We are so incredibly lucky.

boys tent games

Relaxing on a Kenyan safari

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Jodi January 13, 2012, 8:17 AM

Beautifully written!

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Heather January 13, 2012, 10:20 AM

Thanks Jodi. Straight from the heart.

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Denise January 13, 2012, 8:31 AM

Beautiful! Even if we are stuck on this one island (Long Island, that is!) rather than traversing the globe, my 7- and 9-year-old boys are the same way, a tangle of genetics and limbs and secret/weird games.It’s nice to be reminded that I should watch them with gratitude and awe (even as they drive me around the bend).

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Heather January 13, 2012, 10:20 AM

Oh the secret games are in full force here too! Made up games with funny voices and characters that no one understands. Crazy but I love it.

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Marina K. Villatoro January 13, 2012, 10:02 AM

That is so great. Traveling bonds the famiy so much, that the kids really don’t have a choice :) Which is what we want – the lifelong bond!

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Heather January 13, 2012, 10:19 AM

It’s so true. I knew it could go either way on this trip: either they’d love each other ferociously or never want to see each other again. So glad it’s the former not the latter. :)

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Mary January 13, 2012, 10:20 AM

Love this!  How beautifully written.  I see the same things in my 3 boys.  Today the 2 oldest were taking turns, happily, carrying their baby brother (who tortures them regularly)!  As an only child I have always felt lacking because I had no sibling .  It amazes me how quickly they can fight and then go back to giggling like nothing happened.  I love watching their bond probably the most in motherhood!

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Heather January 13, 2012, 11:09 AM

Love that about boys! (Wonder if people with girls find the same thing?)  And I agree with you – watching them bond is one of my favourite things too. 

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unmarketing January 13, 2012, 10:34 AM

Love

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Heather January 13, 2012, 10:42 AM

Thanks Scott.

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Wandering Educators January 13, 2012, 10:49 AM

oh. happy, happy, joy, joy. life is good!

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Anonymous January 13, 2012, 11:03 AM

Heather, you made me cry. Really. Such a beautiful post.

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Heather January 13, 2012, 4:00 PM

oops. sorry. hope you smiled too :)

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Pam @writewrds January 13, 2012, 11:53 AM

Just magic. And good for the heart. : ) 

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Reb Stevenson January 13, 2012, 12:35 PM

I love it too! My brothers are so important to me. I understand the bond, and how incredibly special this trip will be to your boys! *tear*

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Sara Chi January 13, 2012, 2:20 PM

Oh Heather, how I cried, for the precious treasures between siblings and the unconditional love from parents; so beautifully true. 

Totally relate as mom of two girls (8 & 9) :)

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Heather January 13, 2012, 3:58 PM

sorry Sara! Didn’t meant for you to shed tears. Glad they’re happy ones. We’re so lucky as parents that we get to watch this unfold.

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Jen Maier, urbanmoms January 13, 2012, 2:20 PM

Your words and these pictures perfectly captured the closeness your two boys share. Awesome.

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Stamrish1 January 13, 2012, 3:56 PM

You are so lucky :) and your kids are even luckier , you put a lump in my throat you naughty thing :) love steve & Rita the pomes xxx

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Heather January 14, 2012, 1:04 AM

I seem to be doing that to a lot of people. ;) Glad you’re still following!

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Kathryn January 13, 2012, 3:59 PM

What a beautiful post and wonderful experience that you have created for your boys and your family. It is obvious how special each and every part of this trip has been for all of you!

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Maija @ Maija's Mommy Moments January 13, 2012, 6:14 PM

Melt my heart.  These words: “They are the most beautiful mix of their parents’ love and eyelashes and finger nails and perspectives.” are beautiful! 

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Fly Girl January 15, 2012, 1:06 PM

This brings tears to my eyes Heather. Who would have ever thought that traveling would have so many benefits for siblings. It’s enough for me to snatch my kids out of school and join you while there’s still time!

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Heather January 16, 2012, 2:18 AM

I’m going to have to start a Kleenex rating system on these things!

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Nadia Carriere January 15, 2012, 11:55 PM

This was pure gold. I cried, I smiled and you touched my heart. So beautiful Heather!

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Viji B January 16, 2012, 9:35 PM

Heather you made me cry with this post.  Beautiful.

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MamaDrama NY January 18, 2012, 12:39 AM

A treasure.  Lock this post and save it forever to show the boys in 20 years.

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