Growing up it was always said that men are not supposed to cry: A real man does not show his emotions.
Over the last six months my boys have cried on numerous occasions. It has frustrated me because I couldn’t understand why they were so emotional. Today is day 225 and I finally figured it out.
It’s simple: That’s what human being do to show emotions.
They laugh, smile and even cry. When my boys are smiling and laughing I have no issues but when they are angry or sad and the tears come I begin to feel that I must take control of the situation.
That ends today. I’m making myself a promise that I will try to stop taking control of my kids’ emotions. I will stop being an emotional helicopter parent and let them sort out their emotions the best way they can because that’s what people do.
Sitting on a flight something that happens that has happened a lot on this trip. I’m watching the boys watch the movies “Puss & Boots” and “Tron”, both are laughing uncontrollably.
Funny enough the moment has left me struggling to hold back tears and my eyes are filled with water. I look at my oldest and he reaches out to hold my hand because he can see the tears in my eyes.
At 9 years old he knows better than I do.
This could only happen here, on this trip where we have the time to sit and watch and learn. I will never second guess this year because this have been the best six months of my life. It has truly offered up the best life lessons that the boys (and their parents) will ever experience.
I hope they will remember the 365 days that we are spending together with laughter, smiles, anger and sadness and they will realize that not only is it alright to cry, but that real men do it too.